A few years ago, the surgeon general declared that there was a loneliness crisis in the U.S. "Social disconnection," as the 2023 announcement explained, is a public health concern because it can increase risk of a range of conditions, from cardiovascular disease to dementia, anxiety and depression.
Especially our digital world, it's natural to feel lonely from time to time, but persistent loneliness and social isolation can actually lead to premature death. That's one of the reasons loneliness is a major focus area for Sylvia Kalicinski, Ph.D, author of "Lonely AF," out March 17.
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Loneliness comes up often with her clients, Kalicinski tells TODAY.com. And she generally follows the same advice she gives them to combat feelings of loneliness in her own life.
For example, she prioritizes connecting with people with shared values and also makes "time for rituals that keep me emotionally present, like a daily 5 morning meditation."
Some other activities she does regularly to fight loneliness include running with a local club, having meaningful conversations, and getting coffee or lunch with loved ones.
"Make time to slow down. For me, preventing loneliness isn’t about being busy or constantly surrounded by people. It’s about nurturing relationships where I can show up as my real, silly, clumsy, imperfect self and still feel seen," she says.
Why It Matters
"Loneliness isn’t just an emotion — it’s a biological signal that our nervous system is craving connection," Kalicinski explains.
"Research shows that chronic loneliness affects our stress hormones, immune system, and even long-term health outcomes. But beyond the science, loneliness shapes the stories we tell ourselves. When it goes unaddressed, people often start believing they’re unworthy of connection. The truth is that loneliness isn’t a personal failure, rather a signal inviting us back into relationship with others and with ourselves."
How to Get Started
The first thing Kalicinski suggests to help fight off loneliness is to name the feeling and what it's indicating you need. Ask yourself about the kind of connection you'd most benefit from, such as a walk with a friend. Even small acts of connection can be powerful reminders that you're not actually alone, she says.
Some other ways to prevent loneliness include:
- Scheduling time with loved ones
- Leaving the house
- Participating in shared experiences
- Looking for "micro-moments" of connection, brief interactions in public that help you feel like you belong
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